7 Reasons you may not realize you have an eating disorder if you're over 40
Did you have an eating disorder when you were a teenager, and after years your symptoms have returned?
Did you have symptoms of one type of eating disorder when you were young, but different symptoms as you have gotten older? (I.e. you were anorexic as a teenager, but doing more emotional eating now?)
Are you worried about the effects of aging on your body, and feeling worse about your looks?
Are you worried constant fighting about politics is hurting your relationship?
Are you in a mixed political marriage?
Do your children/parents have opposing political beliefs from you and it’s driving you crazy?
Has stress in the house over politics become too much to bear?
Do you feel misunderstood and silenced by your partner/family members about your political leanings?
Could ABA therapy be a miracle cure for the growing epidemic of anxiety among teen girls?
A disturbing new study has just come out of 2018 National Survey on Drug Use and Health that unfortunately confirms what I have been seeing the last few years in my counseling practice- anxiety and depression are increasingly wreaking havoc among young girls and women.
3 surprising reasons why you are night eating
Do you have trouble sleeping and then find yourself heading to the fridge, even if you're not hungry? Do you feel like you need to eat something every time in order to be able to fall asleep again? Do you feel ashamed of eating at night and do it in secret? Did you know that about 1.5% of the general population engage in night eating that they feel is out-of-control? If you suffer from night eating, a form of binge eating disorder, you are definitely not alone.
Are you worried your college student has an eating disorder?
From the time we're born, we're bombarded with millions of messages--especially women but increasingly men, too--that we're not acceptable the way we are; we need to be prettier, thinner, and affluent, have blue eyes, or a perfect body. Think about social media too; it has just exploded onto the scene! In addition to radio, cable and television, we have Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and YouTube bombarding us every day with messages that we're not good enough; we need to diet; and we need to constantly exercise.
Could your local gym or fitness tracker be giving you an eating disorder?
Could your local gym or fitness tracker be giving you an eating disorder? Have you been body or fat shamed at the gym? Have you been encouraged by physical trainers to go on restrictive diets or take expensive supplements they conveniently sell at their gym? Do you feel guilty if you miss even one workout? Do people around you at the gym talk constantly about needing to be “cut”, “ripped”, or worry about being fat or unfit? Do you feel you have to be wearing your fitness tracker at all times?
What is "fitspiration" and could it be giving your child an eating disorder?
Is your child, teen or adult child obsessed with social media, especially Instagram? Is your son or daughter always on their phone and taking pictures of themselves to post on social media? Have you noticed them getting upset over not having the "perfect" picture to post? As a parent, have you ever actually looked at your child's instagram feed to see what types of people they are following? Have you noticed your child shying away from foods they now believe are "unhealthy", and engaging in constant exercise? Have you ever heard of fitspo?
Does avoiding mirrors make you hate your body more?
You would think that ending your physical eating disorder symptoms such as bingeing, purging, starving or compulsively exercising would be the hardest part of recovery, wouldn’t you? And recovery is very hard - possible, but hard.
Is improper treatment of PCOS causing your eating disorder?
Have you been diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) and warned by your doctor to lose weight but not instructed how?
Are you feeling hopeless about your PCOS diagnosis and symptoms?
Has your PCOS caused you to feel lethargic, depressed and experience painful periods?
Is your partner’s eating disordered thinking and behaviors hurting your recovery?
Here is a question I received from a reader about a little discussed dilemma in eating disorder recovery that is all too common: realizing a family member or your partner also has eating disordered thinking or behaviors (such as yo-yo dieting, compulsive exercising, purging or body dysmorphia) but they won’t admit to them or seek help.
Is your fear of gaining weight taking over your life?
Many of my clients are terrified at the thought of gaining even one pound in recovery. Our society's stigma against fat people as well as our unhealthy obsession with being thin and beautiful creates these feelings of terror.
Are you worried that your high school or college athlete has an eating disorder?
When we think of eating disorders, high performing athletes are usually the last people who come to mind. Athletes are at the top of their game, in peak physical shape, and the healthiest among us, right? So you would think they would be the last people prone to anorexia, bulimia, laxative abuse, or compulsive overeating.
Feeling fat? Look at what is happening in India to understand why.
Last night I was watching a show called VICE on HBO. If you don't know, it's a news show that uses documentary, immersionist style to go deep into a contemporary issue. Last night I watched a segment on India's growing skin lightening industry.
Here’s why dieting is the WRONG way to manage diabetes, and can actually make it worse!
As part of launching our “No-diet Diabetes” program, I sat down this week with our fabulous dietitian Elizabeth Lagasse, RD to ask questions about why you should never focus on losing weight to manage prediabetes or diabetes.
Have you been living with shame because you received a Type 2 diabetes diagnosis?
Have you been shamed by your doctor, friends or family about your eating habits or needing to lose weight because of this diagnosis?
Do you feel like a failure, lazy, and hopeless because you haven’t been able to stay on a diet for diabetes management?
Have you or your child been a victim of cyberbullying and/or body shaming?
Has your son or daughter been teased at school because of their weight or appearance?
Were YOU teased as a child because of your weight or appearance, and the feelings of low self-esteem and shame are still with you months or years later?
Should we hide or throw food away from our overweight child?
Has your child’s pediatrician warned you that your child is overweight and may experience health problems as a result?
Have you relapsed and feel too ashamed to get help?
Have you been in recovery from an eating disorder and symptom free for months or years, and your symptoms have suddenly returned?
How do I convince my adult child to get treatment for an eating disorder?
Every month I receive at least one heart-breaking phone call from a parent about an adult child who refuses to seek treatment for an eating disorder. The parents are often besides themselves. Their child is either starving and approaching a low weight that is life-threatening, engaging in binge-purge behaviors, compulsively over-exercising or emotionally overeating and secretly hoarding food.
Why are eating disorders skyrocketing among midlife men and women?
I have been an eating disorders and body image therapist for over twenty years, and have noticed an alarming trend. Eating and body image disorders are skyrocketing among midlife women and men. Why?
Here are 4 MORE Ways Joyful Movement Can Easily Get You Fit for Life...
You may have read this week about Seattle Mariners catcher Mike Marjama coming out about a lifetime struggle with an eating disorder that included severe exercise bulimia. As a follow up to my last blog post on the importance of joyful movement, I want to list some of the signs of exercise purging, plus three more ways to incorporate joyful movement into your life as a part of eating disorder recovery.
3 Ways Joyful Movement Can Easily Get You Fit for Life... and Help You Recover from an Eating Disorder
Do you exercise with the primary goal of losing weight and burning calories? Do you feel guilty, lazy and like a failure if you miss a workout? Or do you dread exercise because you don’t like it or feel forced to do it?
Are you sick and tired of dieting?
Have you been dieting for years and it never pays off? Do you try and try again with various diets and still end up the exact same as before or worse? Is constant dieting making you feel worse and hopeless about your life?
Is your child addicted to video games?
Is your child or teen constantly on the computer or playing video games?
Is he uninvolved in any other activities in his free time?
Is gaming affecting his attitude and overall well-being?
Has your son or daughter become violent with you rather than hand over an electronic device?
Just recently, gaming addiction was labeled as an actual disorder by the World Health Organization...
Are you afraid to talk on the phone, apply for jobs in person, or hand in papers because they’re not “perfect”? You’re not the only one!
Are you too afraid to make phone calls or speak up in because you fear you’ll “choke” or have to deal with conflict? Would you rather accept a consequence you do not deserve because you do not want to cause a scene or inconvenience anyone by bringing it up?
What is a “life list” and how can it ease my eating disorder symptoms?
For months, or in many cases years, you have been using your eating disorder to soothe you in times of emotional distress. It may have become automatic and feel like it would be impossible to do something different.
Do you suffer from anxiety AND an eating disorder? Here are 7 tips to help you stop worrying.
Can you see a difference in the things you worry about than what most people worry about? Do you often find yourself mired in a situation that you can’t find a way out of?
Does the thought of wearing spring clothes and swimsuits give you a panic attack?
Here’s how to love your body during swimsuit season! With spring in full swing, swim suit season is not far off and both men and women are already in an anxious frenzy about their bodies.
Are you worried about your retirement?
You’re not the only one! Retirement is a big deal, for some it comes voluntarily and for others it does not. You would think that those that have planned their retirement meticulously for years would be able to sail into their golden year’s anxiety and depression free.
Are You Struggling with an Eating Disorder as A Member of the LGBTQ Community?
Over my 25+ years of helping individuals recover from eating disorders, I have treated many members of the LGBTQ community. Although the climate of acceptance for people of all sexual orientations has greatly improved over the years, being a part of the LGBTQ community still has its own unique stressors, and of course, it’s risks for being prone to eating disorders.
Why Are More and More Doctors, Nurses, and Other “Helpers” Developing Eating Disorders?
As teachers deal with over- crowded classrooms, under-funding, and the pressure to get all students ready for standardize testing above all else, medical professionals are dealing with long hours, case overload, and compassion fatigue.
Are you a law student or a lawyer with an eating disorder?
In over 20 years of helping people recover from eating disorders, I have been shocked at how many of my clients are attorneys or law students.
10 Life Saving Parent tips to help your child recover from an eating disorder
So many of the parents I speak with wasted precious time taking their child to therapists and doctors who had little to no experience in treating eating disorders.
It wasn’t their fault!
Specialists can be difficult to locate, and when you are worried, desperate, and need to get help fast for your child, it is common to take a wrong turn.
What is it like at The Body Image Counseling Center? Ask Alexcia!
I am thrilled to welcome Alexcia Gutierrez as a guest blogger this week. Alexcia is a student at Florida State College at Jacksonville, and was assigned to reach out to a local mental health agency to learn more about their services. Luckily she chose The Body Image Counseling Center!
Has your child been diagnosed with an eating disorder?
If you are reading this, it’s likely you have recently learned that your child has been diagnosed with an eating disorder. Receiving this kind of news can be shocking, frightening and painful, and it’s understandable if you feel paralyzed about what to do... and what NOT to do, in order to help them.
Is telling your child's school about their eating disorder is a good idea?
Are you trying to decide whether or not to tell your child’s school about their eating disorder?
Are you worried your child will be stigmatized, punished or judged by their peers and/or teachers if you tell them the truth?
Are you afraid you child will be kicked out of school or forced to repeat a grade if you disclose their illness?
Are you having trouble keeping up with your New Years’ resolutions? It’s not your fault!
American’s top New Year’s resolutions are:
1. Eat better
2. Exercise more
3. Spend less money
I track the top resolutions every year, and the truth is, they don’t change much. These are the top three nationally year to year, even though they may swap positions. Same resolutions, same problems and same disappointments when the goals are not met. Most people, (maybe even you?), get amped up during the holidays to dig in to their new diet, new budget, and new exercise routine, only to fail a few weeks or months into the year.
Is your child or teen refusing to go to school?
As a therapist with over twenty years of experience counseling children and teens, I have noticed an alarming trend in my practice – more and more parents are calling me worried to death because their child or teen is too anxious or depressed to go to school.
Are you trying to go cold turkey with your eating disorder symptoms? It won’t work!
Going cold turkey to stop your eating disorder will not work, even if some doctors and therapists have told you it will. Unfortunately, I’ve had many patients over the years who saw therapists, doctors and even dietitians who advised them some form of the following: “You’re going to stop purging tomorrow and we’re going to count the days”.
Do you drop your routines over the holidays? It could hurt your eating disorder recovery!
I'm very happy to be able to help you with an extremely important topic when it comes to eating disorder recovery -- explaining why it's so important to keep up comforting habits and rituals during the holiday season. You don't have to suffer over the holidays if you have food and body image issues, and keeping up your self-care routines can really help.
Is your family’s constant dieting hurting your kids?
Diets are prevalent in our culture.
Studies show that the average age that girls start dieting is eight, and they start to talk about dieting even younger.
They view the word fat as a negative word starting at age five! As a parent, you may think you are helping your child by encouraging her to lose weight through dieting – in fact, many doctors still encourage parents to put their kids on diets because of the obesity crisis in America. This is a case where the prevailing advice is wrong and even dangerous for our children. Why? Because diets don’t work!
Are damaging negative thoughts getting in the way of your recovery?
Today I’m going to tell you about the healing power of affirmations
for eating disorders recovery and healing from lifelong body hatred.
I know you’ve probably heard a lot in the media about using affirmations, and you may think it’s a bunch of mumbo jumbo.
But I’m not talking about some new age hype, here. I’m talking about the role your recurring negative thoughts play in keeping your eating disorder around.
Are these 5 harmful holiday myths hurting your eating disorder recovery?
Harmful myths abound during holiday time, and they don't help matters when it comes to eating disorder recovery. Here are the worst offenders:
Do I need to go to the hospital for eating disorders treatment?
Should you choose inpatient or outpatient treatment for an eating disorder?
Eating disorders are not like other mental health issues people face, such as depression or anxiety, which can often be remedied by once-a-week visits to a qualified and empathic therapist. Complete treatment for eating disorders requires the work of a team of professionals who can treat the whole person.
There are two ways most patients receive access to this team of professionals. Treatment that takes place outside of the hospital or residential setting is known as “outpatient treatment,” and treatment occurring inside of a hospital or residential care setting is known as “inpatient treatment.”
Why can’t I just stop bingeing, purging and emotionally eating?
Have you ever tried to “just stop” starving, bingeing or purging “cold turkey” out of frustration and despair? Here are some of the things people say to themselves when their eating disorder gets really bad:
“This is the last time I’m going to make myself throw up”
“I’m starting my diet today”
“From this day on, I’m not eating any more white sugar, carbs or other BAD foods”
“I’m going to mark off the days on my calendar that I don’t throw up, until I stop completely”
If you want lasting love, make a deal breaker list.
In order to have healthy friendships and loving relationships, it’s crucial to make what I call a deal breaker list. When you look for an apartment or car, you have a list of things that are deal breakers, right?
For example, if the plumbing doesn’t work, or if the apartment is in a bad location or if it’s too small. Or if a car you want to buy is leaking oil, that’s a deal breaker. You should also have reliable list of deal breakers for friendships and love relationships.
Are There Really Good and Bad Foods?
Here is a question I saw in an eating disorder chat room the other day that I think speaks for so many people who are suffering in silence with eating problems, weight and body shame:
“I seem to go in a cycle of being healthy, where I feel really good about myself, and then I suddenly go to the other extreme of binging on foods that are bad for me. Then I feel so guilty I just have throw up until I can’t throw up anymore. And I know that throwing up is horrible. Not only does it screw up your hair, teeth, and skin, but it doesn’t even help me lose weight. How can I be one way and then completely the opposite the next?
How do I help my child feel better about her body image and weight when she lives in a society obsessed with dieting?
A few years ago I saw a story on Good Morning America about a married couple whose job is to scout for potential supermodels. The story featured three teenage girls (ALL already painfully thin, I may add) who were "discovered" by this pair.
IN THE FIELD WITH LORI OSACHY, MSS LCSW, EATING DISORDER SPECIALIST
Thanks so much to Skyler Williams from Tiffin University who interviewed me about my work with eating disorders a few months ago. I’m reposting our interview here with her permission. I hope it will help all of you to know me better, and why I am so passionate about my job!
Are you trying to make it through college with an eating disorder?
Many college students have untreated eating disorders before they leave for college, and they leave home without fully planning ahead. They may be recovering from an eating disorder but can’t adequately handle the stresses at college without relapse.
How to love your pregnant body
Pregnancy is certainly one of the most challenging experiences of a woman’s life. It brings about so many changes: emotional, financial and social just to name a few. One of the most obvious, however, are the changes in a pregnant woman’s body and how she feels about those changes.
You're a Good Parent
I'm glad you're here.
It's Lori, here from The Body Image Counseling Center and I'd like to applaud you for taking the first step to getting help for your child's eating disorder by visiting this website and searching for the right information to help your child recover from a dangerous eating disorder. I’m concerned, however, that you may be feeling ashamed or guilty despite your best efforts to help them.
What does losing my dogs have to do with eating disorder recovery?
Don't let your despair win.
When you're in the depths of despair you might feel there's no hope, no-one can help, what's the point? Well that's not true – it's just your despair talking.
What if we have already found a therapist but my child’s eating disorder is not getting better?
The biggest mistake that therapists make when it comes to eating disorders is to not ask about them at all. Many therapist and treatment providers do not have an adequate eating disorder assessment section in their intakes
Teens and Religion
Is your teen’s questioning or rebelling against your religious beliefs worrying you?
The other day a friend and I were sitting over a cup of coffee and reminiscing about how we celebrated the holidays with our families when we were teenagers...
Eating disorder, Not just a teen girl problem
I thought it would be powerful to highlight just a few of the groups of people who suffer from eating and body image disorders that we rarely hear about. In the media, the most common stories on eating disorders often sensationalize anorexia, bulimia and compulsive overeating in young, white women (usually celebrities).
I would argue that eating disordered behaviors and body image distortion affect a much greater number of people, but either because they don’t fit within a defined “diagnosis”, or are not celebrities, we hear very little about the many other groups of people who can suffer a lifetime with low self-esteem and destructive eating behaviors. Here are some of the groups we rarely hear about:
How Do I Know If My Teenager Has An Eating Disorder?
Eating disorders are a growing and alarming problem among teenage girls. Girls may chronically overeat, or at the opposite extreme, may starve themselves in an effort to look thin. When a person diets to the point of losing 25% or more of her normal body weight, she is suffering from a condition called anorexia nervosa.
Did You Know These Seven Powerful Ways to Build Healthy Eating Habits in Children?
In our fast food culture, mealtime in many homes is no longer a time of family togetherness. Find your family’s own ways to express gratitude for bounty and to appreciate food (after all, we need food in order to live. You can also give your child responsibility for one part of each meal -- saying blessings, setting the table...
Is Parenting Stress is putting your Relationship in Jeopardy?
Are you and your partner experiencing relationship difficulties due to parenting stress? Parenting can be one of the hardest jobs in the world, and stress is amplified when your relationship is caught in the crossfire. Here are some ideas to consider and tips to improve the situation before your relationship is beyond repair.
Is Your Child a Picky Eater and Losing Weight?
Is your toddler, child or teen reluctant to eat in front of other people?
Does he or she have only a few foods that they prefer and are those options becoming fewer and fewer over time?
The “Picky Eater” is a common experience for most parents who have toddlers.
How to Put a Stop to Backtalk, Door Slamming, and Other Teen Drama
The words drama and teenager seem to go hand-in-hand. At one time or another, every teen goes through a period of defiance and push back towards their parents. These can be frustrating times, but there are many things you can do to put a stop to the backtalk and navigate through this challenging time.
Is Your Child's Oppositional Behavior Ruining Your Home Life?
Are you struggling with your child’s oppositional behavior? Do they talk back, refuse to do chores, and “push your buttons?” Oppositional behavior can be frustrating to deal with as a parent. When it’s happening, you may feel like there’s nothing you can do to stop it. However, there are many solutions within your control that you can start using today to improve the situation.
How to Help Your Teen with Self-Care Skills & Money Management without Going Insane!
Are you concerned about your teenager’s ability to manage money wisely? Today’s financial landscape is more complicated and risky than that of previous generations. However, there are ways to empower your teen to make smart money choices now, as well as provide skills that will help them become more independent adults.
Problems Communicating? 7 Ways to Help Your Child or Teen Learn Social Skills
Are you worried about your child or teen’s lack of social skills?
Do you think your child is too shy, doesn’t have any friends, or is pushing potential friends away?
Is your child struggling to communicate effectively with you or others because they become frustrated or angry?
Does he or she seem unable to understand the complex social situations they face at school?
You are Not Alone in Your Concerns
Just take a look at some of the worries I discovered on the internet expressed by concerned parents:
How to Help Your Shy Child Relax and Have a Fulfilling Social Life
Does your child struggle with anxiety, especially in social situations?
Do you want your child to feel relaxed and enjoy a more fulfilling social life?
It’s possible. Even better, they can get the help they need at home, where they feel the most comfortable. Soon, your child can feel confident and prepared for what the world has to offer.
What is Applied Behavior Analysis and How Can It Help My Kids?
Is your child struggling with certain behaviors such as school phobia, extreme shyness, disrespectful behavior, refusal to complete chores, or procrastinating on homework?
Is your young adult having difficulty completing college classes, holding a job, and being able to live on their own?
Do you want your kids to learn how to positively interact with others and handle stressful situations appropriately?
Successful Relationships Secret #2: Overcome your shyness.
Our first secret in finding fabulous friends and love relationships was, ironically, to learn to enjoy being alone. But what if you’re fine being alone, but have trouble meeting people? Often I counsel people who are very, very shy and experience social anxiety. They have a lot of trouble taking social risks. They can entertain themselves just fine, but they are afraid to talk to people.
Many introverts say they like their own company but still crave deep, meaningful friendships and love relationships. You can’t discover those relationships if you spend most of your time alone.
Thirteen Secrets to Finding Fabulous Friends and Love Relationships
As a certified Gottman educator and a couples coach, I talk to a lot of people who are either in strained and unsatisfying love relationships, or who are desperately searching for Mr. or Mrs. “Right”. I thought it would be helpful to offer a blog series on the 13 secrets I’ve learned over twenty years as a couples coach on how to find fabulous friends and love relationships.
Don’t send your child to college with an eating disorder
It’s that time of year again when young people head back to college and school. Unfortunately many of them take more than their bedding and books with them; up to 25% of college students also return with an untreated eating disorder.
Don't diet, get ANGRY!
Today I'm pretty mad. I saw a story on Good Morning America yesterday on a married couple whose job is to scout for potential supermodels. Do I care what these folks do for a living? Not really, it IS a free country after all. It's what happens after they find their supermodel progeny that makes my blood boil.
Is an eating disorder the real problem, or just a symptom?
There are so many people who live a secret life, and sometimes a secret lifetime, battling an eating disorder. The physical, emotional and spiritual problems that manifest with eating disorders are so powerful and all-encompassing that it can be easy to believe that these are the primary symptoms that must be overcome.
Do eating disorder therapists REALLY know what they're doing?
The last few days I have been reading some of the comments posted in eating disorder online support groups, and there seems to be a lot of negative thinking and despair about the ability of therapists to be able to truly help people with eating disorders.
Too many people have reported bad experiences with therapists and other helping professionals when trying to seek relief and recovery.
Should your inner circle be your outer circle?
In my work with helping individuals with eating disorders I have learned that negative thoughts and poor boundary setting are two of the most dangerous enemies of full recovery.
Conversely, one of the most powerful weapons in your arsenal to help you turn negative thoughts around is a rock-solid support group, or what I call your inner circle.
Did you know this deadly myth about eating disorders?
I receive this question all the time from parents and loved ones of people with eating disorders. Please know that it is a DEADLY MYTH that someone can’t have an eating disorder if they seem to be of normal weight. Remember, eating disorders are complicated illnesses, and present themselves differently depending on the person.
For instance, did you know that studies show most people with bulimia nervosa are of NORMAL weight? Did you also know that you can have symptoms of different types of eating disorders all at the same time? For example:
Do “Fat Feelings” bother you day and night?
I’ve worked with hundreds of men, women and children with eating disorders over the past twenty years, and I can tell you that without a doubt, fat feelings and body image distortion are even more difficult to get rid of than the actual eating disorder symptoms (such as purging, compulsive exercise, dangerous weight loss, and laxative abuse).
Why are fat feelings and fears so hard to conquer?
Stop Parent Blaming for Eating Disorders
I've had a lot of distraught parents calling me in the last few weeks because they just found out their child is suffering from anorexia, bulimia, compulsive overeating or body dysmorphic disorder.
Many of these parents had called doctors, counselors and other medical providers who had been either been unable to help, had implied it was somehow the parents' fault, or hadn't even called them back!
The only thing worse than finding out your child has a potentially life threatening condition is to be continually frustrated in finding qualified help. For this reason I wanted to send out a supportive article this week to parents encouraging you to follow your intuition about what is right for your child, and not to waste precious time blaming yourselves.
The 6 Most Common Mistakes People Make When Trying To Help Someone With An Eating Disorder
Even though I truly love being a therapist, one thing about my job that is very difficult is receiving the weekly calls from parents and loved ones of people with eating disorders who ask the same heart-breaking question:
“I know my child (wife, sister, brother, mother, or friend) has an eating disorder, but when I beg them to get counseling or see a doctor, they refuse and deny they even have a problem. What can I do to get them help?"
Do you feel at the end of your rope with your child or teen’s difficult behavior?
Does he or she argue all the time and refuse to follow rules, leaving you exhausted?
Is he or she getting poor grades, despite high intelligence and capability?
Does he or she have trouble keeping up with self-care skills such as time management, money management, household chores or regular grooming?
Is he or she abusing alcohol or drugs?
Has he or she become more violent, breaking property, running away, skipping school or physically threatening you and other family members?
How Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) Can Help You Rapidly Recover from an Eating Disorder
As a Board Certified Behavior Analyst (BCBA)...
my main focus is to increase socially appropriate, healthy behaviors, and decrease unhealthy, dangerous behaviors.
Goals For Working with ABA
With regard to eating disorders, I will help you to increase healthy behaviors in your life such as: following your meal plan, exercising an appropriate amount, eating an appropriate amount of calories, and regularly using healthy coping skills instead of your eating disorder symptoms. At the same time, I will also help you decrease unhealthy behaviors such as: yo-yo dieting, purging, over exercising, and emotional eating.
Does the man in your life have an eating disorder?
Over the years I have been treating more and more boys and men for eating disorders. Do you know that for a long time it was believed that men do not get eating disorders? For that reason, all treatment was focused on women, basically excluding the needs of men.
Luckily, times have changed and slowly but surely, men with eating disorders are finally getting more specialized attention and treatment options.
What would your life look like if you were totally free of your eating disorder?
Think about it for a minute.
I bet you haven't asked yourself that question very much, or maybe never at all. Why do I know this? Because most people with eating disorders live with them in secret, as well as the false belief that they can never fully recover. So, if you believe you will always have to live with your eating disorder, why would you waste time dreaming about what your life would be like without it?
You may be hearing that voice right now, that negative, pessimistic voice, whispering "Don't listen to HER (or HIM!), you know it's impossible to get better, don't get your hopes up". If that voice (some people call it Ed) is there, just tell it to wait a few minutes, and clear a space to answer, what *exactly* would your life look like if you were forever free? Would it include...
When It Comes to Friends, Lovers, and Eating Disorders, Are You Listening to Your Alarm?
Published February 2, 2015 | By Lori Osachy
If you have an eating disorder and you’re having trouble approaching people, you may have turned off your “alarm”.
Our body is like a house. When we’re born, we all have a natural “alarm system” built into our house that tells us when we’re in danger, and when it’s safe. When we’re in danger that alarm goes off in the form of our intuition or instinct, and tells us it is not safe.
Some people end up turning off their alarm.
Do You Know About This Hidden College Epidemic?
Published January 19, 2015 | By Lori Osachy
Do you know about this hidden college epidemic: substance abuse and eating disorders?
An excerpt from my new book brings it to light.
Do you know there has been a dramatic increase in marijuana use on college campuses, even in states where it’s not legal? I’m finding more and more that when people come to see me for help with eating disorders, they’ve also been regularly drinking to excess and/or using marijuana daily.
Don’t Be The One-Legged Woman In a Wheelchair
Published January 6, 2015 | By Lori Osachy
Today’s tip on eating disorder recovery is to think about your deathbed and how you want to look back on your life.
This is serious but we have to bring out the big guns to battle negative body image and eating disorders, right? I want you to sit and project yourself one year, then five years ahead in your life and think about how you want to feel. And then I want you to think about the end of your life and ask yourself: “Do I want to look back and say that I hated my body? That I was obsessed with calories and weight for all of my years? That I always struggled with food and body image? Do I really want to look back and say that’s what much of my life was all about?”
Do You Have to Live With an Eating Disorder for the Rest of Your Life?
Published December 29, 2014 | By Lori Osachy
A common and harmful misconception about eating disorders is that you have to live with them in some form for the rest of your life, and just hope you can successfully manage the symptoms. Having an eating disorder is not a natural state. It’s a faulty coping mechanism.
Although people can be genetically predisposed to eating disorders, environment is much more influential - about 75% over our genetics. There has been a lot covered in the news lately on the topic stemming from a renewed interest in research about how humans can overcome our genetics. Research has shown that our genetics are, in many cases, a very small part of what influences us.
Are You Terrified To Be Alone?
Published December 15, 2014 | By Lori Osachy
Did you know that learning how to be alone is one of the most important steps in eating disorder recovery?
It’s essential to learn the difference between aloneness and loneliness. Loneliness is a very normal emotion; sometimes we pine for other people, and we do need community in order to be emotionally (and physically!) healthy. However, a critical task in life is learning how to be alone, how to enjoy your own company, how to not need other people to entertain yourself or feel good about yourself.
Why You Need Professional Help To Get Better From an Eating Disorder
Published December 8, 2014 | By Lori Osachy
Many people with eating disorders wonder if professional treatment is absolutely necessary for them to get well. Eating disorders are mysterious to the average person, and individuals often lack full understanding of this complex and dangerous problem.
When a person lacks information and guidance about a stressful problem, they can be prone to minimizing it or denying its seriousness. This can unfortunately lead to disastrous consequences.
3 Powerful Ways To Keep Up Healthy Exercise During the Holidays
Published December 2, 2014 | By Lori Osachy
Around this time of year, starting in October, I hear about two main fears that overwhelm most of my clients with eating disorders:
I’ll eat too much (or not enough) food over the holidays, going back to my eating disordered behaviors
I’ll either over-exercise to deal with the stress, or not exercise enough.
My last blog post
addressed the first fear. If you missed it, you can read it here
. Today I’m going to help you with the second fear.
4 Ways to De-Stress During the Holidays
Published November 25, 2014 | By Lori Osachy
The holidays are here and along with cheer, parties and gift exchanges, they can bring a lot of stress. Many people suffer from stress during the holiday season and if you are one of them don’t feel bad about not enjoying every moment of the season.
Attempting to attend every get-together, see every family member, buy gifts for everyone and stay happy while you do it can cause unnecessary stress and you can avoid it! The stress of the holidays can cause relapses and can trigger eating disorder symptoms so it’s important to find ways to stay calm during this season.
Finding ways to de-stress during the holiday madness can help you keep your sanity and actually enjoy the holidays.
Mini-Tip #4 to help heal negative body image
Published April 30, 2014 | By Lori Osachy
4. Determine if you eat for reasons other than hunger or enjoyment.
Mini-Tip #3 to help heal negative body image
Published April 29, 2014 | By Lori Osachy
Mini-Tip #2 to help heal negative body image
Published April 25, 2014 | By Lori Osachy
2. Buy clothes that fit your body comfortably and express your personality.
Mini-Tip #1 to help heal negative body image
Published April 24, 2014 | By Lori Osachy
1. Create an inspiration board.